Autism & Electronics

 I am in awe of neanderthal autistics.  

To narrow the timeline a little, I am in awe of any autistic person who existed prior to this shiny, new milennium.  Specifically, I am perplexed as to how they survived.

In the same way that a fish needs gills, and a bird needs wings, an autistic kid needs a smart phone grafted like an extra limb onto their body.  In time, maybe evolution will do the decent thing and genetically predispose autistic kids to sprout an iPhone from their wrist.  In the meantime, we have to settle for making Apple investors laugh all the way to the neurodivergant bank.

This morning, a Twitter mum commented on the guilt she feels over her kid's reliance on gadgets.  Perverse as it is to take pleasure in someone else's distress, I was DELIGHTED that another parent feels as inadequate as I do.  It's always nice to have company in the shit swamp. 

I did a quick audit on Finian's current electronic inventory.

He owns a smart phone, a dvd player (inc tv), a portable dvd player and a nintendo.  As well as having access to the family TV and desktop.  And this doesn't include the various iPads, laptops and smart phones he robs off his family members (he laughs in the face of passwords... cracking them just adds to the fun of it).

I am more than aware of how awful this is and how summary execution by the parenting police is just too good for me.  My mothering skills seem to have been learned from a manual co-written by Myra Hindley and Cersei Lannister.  A Good Mother would spend 16 hours a day enaging their kid in finger painting and visiting museums, in between baking organic gf/cf meals and worrying about their gut biome.  

Meanwhile, I feed my boy Nutella on pancakes and allow him free access to the internet, hoping that I won't die of inadequacy by bedtime.  Some days I even get dressed before noon.

I stopped feeling guilty about the use-of-gadgets thing ages ago.

All week, Finian works hard at school.  The rest of the time he is working harder than we can imagine to survive in a world not designed for him.  If he can find some relief, and even a little pleasure, in watching Peppa Pig passive aggressively body-shame her father, then I'm down for that.  

I'm just a little horrified for the generations of pre-millennial autistics who didn't have cyberspace to save them from going insane.

Peppa, that fat-shaming whore